How to get your girlfriend to try new things


After being with the same girl for over a year, you should know a lot about her.  Most women are very adventurous and want to try just as many things as you want to try, but overwhelming afterthoughts keep them from being as free-spirited as they want.  The difference between you and some guy she doesn’t care about is that no matter what she does with him, she can choose not to see him again at any time, and could care less what he thinks.  With you, she cares about what you think of her, and doesn’t want anyone or anything else jeopardizing how you feel about her. Some of the most common explanations for not wanting to try new things, that women who have been with their boyfriends (or husbands) for a long time share, range between three categories:  worry of humiliation, regretting the morning after, and finding something that she (or you) might like more than the usual.  Here are some things you can do to release her inhibitions (that don’t include drugs or illegal substances), that you might not have already tried, just in time for Valentine’s Day!

Embarrass yourself

One way to help your girlfriend try new things is to show her that even you have a great sense of humor, and can embarrass yourself without taking it too seriously.This will help her see a vulnerable side of you, that is not so serious and will help her  be more accepting and welcoming to new experiences that might be  embarrassing.  Doing things like skinny dipping, or streaking is a great way to do something embarrassing together, who knows what creepers might see you guys!

Let her be herself

Not every couple talks about intimate fantasies, but everyone fantasizes about not-so-typical  things.  Let her tell you her fantasy, without getting offended or giving her the, “wow, you’d really do that” face.  Letting her discuss her deepest most secretive fantasies with you will make her feel even more comfortable with herself and her sexuality around you.

Let her tell you what to do

Being adventurous takes a certain amount of confidence.  She needs to know that no matter what crazy situations the two of you get into,  you will respect her feelings, protect her, and always take her side, no matter what.  Building this type of trust with her  comes from you (as the man) respecting and trusting her judgement, and in some situations, being able to “see” what she’s feeling, without her having to say what she’s feeling all the time (you know how women make those faces).

Complement her body

Make your girlfriend feel comfortable about her body, by showing that you like all her parts, not just the fun ones.  It’s impossible for your girlfriend to be completely free with you if she’s worried that you don’t like the way she looks.  It’s more than telling her that she’s beautiful; but you have to really show her.  Once she truly believes that you love her body, and no other woman could steal the physical love you have for her, she will definitely be more willing to try new things with you, and you’ll be able to recognize this change in her.


If you’re not willing to take this journey with your girlfriend, trust me, you guys are definitely going to break-up!


Men’s Cologne: Strong, Fresh and Sweet- how every girl likes her man to be, and how she likes her man to smell

Picking a cologne can be very difficult and can take a long time.  When buying a new fragrance every man should keep two thoughts in mind, one: how do I like this smell, and two: how will my girlfriend like this smell on me? Some women like strong scents, some like fresh scents, and some like sweet.  If you’re going cologne browsing by yourself and don’t know where to start, use these fragrances to help navagate your way around the cologne counter; especially if you’re looking for something new for Valentines Day.



Drakkar Noir is a cologne that has been around for a long time.  This is a classic fragrance, one that you might have seen on your dads dresser when you were growing up.  It is very warm; reminds me of cigars.  It Smells like Egyptian musk with hints of licorice and spice.  Just be sure to apply this one sparingly because it has a very strong scent.


Aramis Is also one of the classics too, it’s been around since the 70’s and isn’t going anywhere anytime soon.  This one is sweet, but very strong, manly, and robust.  I have to admit  I’m not a big fan of strong colognes, but I love to hug guys who wear this fragrance. The smell of it makes me feel relaxed and safe; the way a girl should feel when she’s in a man’s arms.  This one  smells like leather with hints of floral and vanilla.



Nautica Voyage is one of my favorite cool scents for men.  It starts off smelling like the ocean and sea-breeze  but as it develops, you start to smell different spices    lingering underneath the cool ocean scents.  This one is great for guys who are really into water sports because the smell of it really captures a part of the ocean.


Calvin Klein’s Eternity: Agua is also a great fragrance for men.  This one differs from Nautica Voyage in that the oceanic-cool smell lasts longer and the scent is less spicy  and has a truer ocean-breeze quality.  Both of these are really sporty and great for guys who like colognes that reflect what things they like to do in real life.



Prada Amber is a beautiful smell.  It starts off very sweet, smelling like vanilla and cedar wood, then as the fragrance develops. It turns into a very warm, fresh-out-the-shower-soapy smell.  This one is great for the guy who’s girlfriend  likes sweet scents on him, but want’s something more than your average vanilla/chocolate axe spray.  This one reminds me of leather, vanilla and soap; sounds like a weird combination, but it all smells so sexy together.


Angel Men.  You may have seen a fragrance called, “Angel” on your girlfriends dresser top at some point, but don’t worry because the  Angel fragrance for men comes in a completely different bottle (so you guys won’t be matching).  This cologne is as sweet as it gets when it comes to men’s cologne.  It smells like vanilla and caramel   If you are looking for a fragrance that will make your girlfriend want to “eat” you, this is the one.

Angel Men Cologne Metal Case


Most guys eventually learn that letting your girlfriend, “friend,” chick-on-the-side, or what ever you call her; pick what movies or shows you guys watch is the first step to the day resulting in a good night for you.  At some point you were probably forced to watch shows like “Housewives of Atlanta,” or “Bad Girl’s Club.”  Here are some movies and shows that satisfy her need to watch female drama, but at the same time, are pretty entertaining so you won’t be pissed watching, just in time for Valentine’s Day!

Love and Hip Hop

This show is full of female drama, but at the same time some of your favorite rappers (like Jim Jones and Benzino of  XXL) are on the show too, so while she’s getting what she needs from girl world, you get to see what some of your favorite Hip Hop personalities are doing these days.


The Vow

On the surface, “The Vow” looks like your average girly love story, but Channing Tatum brought a realness to the movie that makes it entertaining and fun to watch. You definitely won’t fall asleep on this. It’s not just about a woman falling in love again, it’s about a real guy, protecting his girl and having her back, and in the end, she shows him that she’s down for him too.


The Next Three Days

In this movie, Russell Crowe plays a husband who’s wife is accused of killing another woman.  The bottom line is, he helps his wife escape from jail, and then moves she and their son out of the country to escape police.  This movie is extremely entertaining. Russell Crowe is like this super-gangster/ ride-or-die husband that won’t let his wife go to jail for something he knows she didn’t do.  This movie is so good, your girl will swear she picked it out.


Okay, let me know how this goes, and what you guys think:)

Men’s style: John Varvatos, a designer that knows what the American man looks like

John Varvatos is one designer that men of all ages look really sexy wearing.  His clothes are like 19th century English gent meets 2012  Brooklyn hustla’.

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All his looks provide a clean and classy silhouette  with enough edginess to make them stand out amongst a sea of mediocre  designs and more of the  same ol’ same ol’.  I love the fact that he is an American designer and you can see how being “made in America,” has deeply influenced his style perspective.

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His designs have a comfortable  fit and are cut to give an almost-tailored look.  My favorite parts of his collection are the accessories.  Bags, sunglasses, belts, cuff links and even fragrances, give Varvato’s line a very unique identity.

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These are some of my favorite pieces from Varvatos, I even bought my boyfriend a couple of his things for Christmas.

Men’s Skin Care: the top 3 ways to protect your skin from wrinkling, the younger you start, the better

When it comes it comes to stopping your skin from aging, the secret is to be proactive and start before the wrinkling starts.  The truth of the matter is that once you get wrinkly, the only way to make yourself look better is plastic surgery; but research shows that if you change a few things while your young (or wrinkle free, usually around 35-40), then the better your chances are preserving your skin.  Although many wrinkle lotions are made for women, no one wants to watch their body and facial features rot  right in front of their eyes, and as a man, you don’t have to watch the favorite parts of your face sag, decapitate, and fade away, as long as you do something to stop it early enough.


When you ingest vitamins, the antioxidants and  minerals usually are not used to nourish the  skin, but when applied topically the skin does a really good job at directly absorbing the nutrients. Antioxidants aide the skin in its ability to protect itself from pollutants, which results in the skins enhanced ability to moisturize, to prevent breakouts, and to fade and prevent age spots and dark spots ( that frequently pose as freckles).  Vitamins A, E and C are a combination of antioxidants and vitamins that have anti-wrinkling properties. These vitamins assist the skin in moisture absorption,  prevent the formation of liver spots and dark spots, and  aide the skin in pollution protection.  Unfortunately, most really good antioxidant lotions can cost up to $100 or more, but you can find a good one for around $30.  If you only use it on your face, hands and neck, it will last a really long time.

This is a Vitamin C lotion from the Signature A club brand.  It's only about $30.  VitaminC helps tighten the skin, and hlps fade age spots, or dark spots, like pimple bruises, or bruises left behind from ingrown hairs.  This cream doesn't feel greasy on the face, and doesn't smell girly.

This is a Vitamin C lotion from the Signature A club brand. It’s only about $30. VitaminC helps tighten the skin, and hlps fade age spots, or dark spots, like pimple bruises, or bruises left behind from ingrown hairs. This cream doesn’t feel greasy on the face, and doesn’t smell girly. It’s most economical if you order it from

Omega Fatty Acids and Collagen

The last layer of your skin is made of fatty tissue that over the years, looses moisture and begins to sag.  Collagen creams can help fill these fat deposits if they are already sagging.  If they aren’t sagging yet, creams with Omega fatty acids (like omega 3, or 6) are great at assisting the skin in maintaining a healthy fat deposit, in order to stop wrinkling.  lotions that  have flaxseed oil or almond oil will have Omega 3 and 6 fatty acids, which is good for your skin. Just be sure to use these every other day (not daily) if you have oily skin, in order to prevent clogged pores( clogged pores =pimples).


using a face scrub will allow your skin to shed the outer layer of dead skin that accumulates on the skin’s surface, which is virtually impossible to get rid of without exfoliating.  Sometimes, even after your first time exfoliating you’ll see a big difference in your skin.  Exfoliating prevents pimples, and prevents dead skin from accumulating on the skins surface. This means that the healthier layer of skin will be able to receive better nourishment (from the lotions you use, the sun and so forth). Just remember to exfoliate your hands, neck and face at the same time.

This honey and oat scrub is perfect for all types off skin and won't get stuck in  your beard. The best thing about it is that it won't make you breakout, and that you can buy it  at any drugstore.  it usually costs no more than $5.

This honey and oat scrub is perfect for all types off skin and won’t get stuck in your beard. The best thing about it is that it won’t make you breakout, and that you can buy it at any drugstore. it usually costs no more than $5.

Through-Back Thursdays: Wonerwall by Oasis- are we all waiting for the savior, that is always on a cigarette break?


Movies, books, songs, even poems, tell people what men need and what women need.  I’ve known my boyfriend for nine years now, but it wasn’t until maybe the fifth year, that I found out what I really meant to him.  It wasn’t until I sat down and really looked at our relationship, that I realized ( in the fifth year) that I had abandoned him every time he really needed me, I mean, REALLY needed me.  He had helped me through  the hardest parts of my life-step by step, day by day, tear after tear. But every time he got thrown out of his house, I wasn’t there, even when he got in his car accident, I wasn’t there. When he was at his worst, I wasn’t there. That’s when it dawned on me that partly, because he was a man, I didn’t realize (at the time) that he needed me to be their.  I think men spend a lot of time waiting for women to find out that their not the only ones locked in a tower, waiting for a savior to find them and break the magic curse; that guys need to be rescued sometimes too.  Wonderwall, by Oasis, released in 1995 made me think of the waiting; for that person who you would catch a bullet for, to  understand that you’re made  flesh, and that so far your ass has been getting shot up.  I’m glad I understood that I needed to save him sometimes, but some girls just don’t ever figure it out.


Anyway, that’s why Wonderwall is our thro’ back. wutcha think about this one guys?