Three Ways To Treat Your Girl That Don’t Involve You Spending Money!

Sometimes if you’re in a relationship or dating, it’s hard to tell what she really wants from you after about a month in.  When it comes down to it; it’s not always about gifts, going out, or spending money all the time.  Here are some things you can do for her that speak volumes over an expensive date (for a girl that really cares about you).

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Help her take her weave out

First of all, It might be a while before the girl even let’s you know officially that her hair is not real, but you’ll find out soon enough. If she doesn’t wear weave, do things like: take out her ponytail of help her flat iron the back of her hair. Helping take out her weave will let her know that you think she’s  beautiful even without all the bells and whistles; that you accept her the way she is.  This will make her feel even more comfortable around you, and with that comfort comes more trust.

If she’s trying to loose weight, buy her a milk shake

Women are ALWAYS trying to loose weight, no matter what.  We do it because we are constantly trying to be prettier than the next chic. Messing up her diet plan (with a milkshake or one of her favorite foods)  shows that you like the way she looks, and that even if this diet doesn’t go well (which it probably won’t) , you’ll still tear-that-ass-up

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PDA in front of her friends

If she’s got three friends, trust me, at least two of them are haters and would hop into bed with you in a heart beat. No matter what, don’t act on your impulse to do charity for bumb-chics; neither one of them are half the women that your girl is, that’s why they hate on her. When she’s around them, give  her a good kiss and/or hug her  tight and grab her butt at the same time.  This will make her feel really special; and more importantly, it will show her friends that you are down for her and aren’t hardly thinking about any of them.

If the woman you are dating is a good match for you, these little things will mean something to her.  You’ll always take her on dates and buy her gifts; but not every man will do these kinds of things for her.  Just be careful what kind of girl you do this for; all of these will lead to increased trust, which means more vulnerability on her part. As a result, she’ll want more trust and vulnerability from you.

How to get your girlfriend to try new things

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After being with the same girl for over a year, you should know a lot about her.  Most women are very adventurous and want to try just as many things as you want to try, but overwhelming afterthoughts keep them from being as free-spirited as they want.  The difference between you and some guy she doesn’t care about is that no matter what she does with him, she can choose not to see him again at any time, and could care less what he thinks.  With you, she cares about what you think of her, and doesn’t want anyone or anything else jeopardizing how you feel about her. Some of the most common explanations for not wanting to try new things, that women who have been with their boyfriends (or husbands) for a long time share, range between three categories:  worry of humiliation, regretting the morning after, and finding something that she (or you) might like more than the usual.  Here are some things you can do to release her inhibitions (that don’t include drugs or illegal substances), that you might not have already tried, just in time for Valentine’s Day!

Embarrass yourself

One way to help your girlfriend try new things is to show her that even you have a great sense of humor, and can embarrass yourself without taking it too seriously.This will help her see a vulnerable side of you, that is not so serious and will help her  be more accepting and welcoming to new experiences that might be  embarrassing.  Doing things like skinny dipping, or streaking is a great way to do something embarrassing together, who knows what creepers might see you guys!

Let her be herself

Not every couple talks about intimate fantasies, but everyone fantasizes about not-so-typical  things.  Let her tell you her fantasy, without getting offended or giving her the, “wow, you’d really do that” face.  Letting her discuss her deepest most secretive fantasies with you will make her feel even more comfortable with herself and her sexuality around you.

Let her tell you what to do

Being adventurous takes a certain amount of confidence.  She needs to know that no matter what crazy situations the two of you get into,  you will respect her feelings, protect her, and always take her side, no matter what.  Building this type of trust with her  comes from you (as the man) respecting and trusting her judgement, and in some situations, being able to “see” what she’s feeling, without her having to say what she’s feeling all the time (you know how women make those faces).

Complement her body

Make your girlfriend feel comfortable about her body, by showing that you like all her parts, not just the fun ones.  It’s impossible for your girlfriend to be completely free with you if she’s worried that you don’t like the way she looks.  It’s more than telling her that she’s beautiful; but you have to really show her.  Once she truly believes that you love her body, and no other woman could steal the physical love you have for her, she will definitely be more willing to try new things with you, and you’ll be able to recognize this change in her.

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If you’re not willing to take this journey with your girlfriend, trust me, you guys are definitely going to break-up!