Interview with War Chyld: The future of hip-hop belongs to the fans.

Rap Artist War Chyld

Rap Artist War Chyld

Nowadays,   you might say hip-hop is the new sex: it’s everywhere and everybody’s doing it. Although we have our own perspective on the future of hip-hop,  it’s  great to get an idea of where our most favorite art is headed,  from someone who is actually doing it well.

War Chyld, independent rapper from Philly, who gave us songs like  “Google me Now,” and “Honeymoon” featuring Slim from 112, is no stranger to underground hop-hop ciphers, and the mainstream version of hip-hop we see everyday. “hip-hop is headed in a direction where, it’s what each individual  fan makes it,” says War Chyld. “You can go to Walmart and buy a little poppy CD that’s all over ICarly…or go buy an underground legend like Sean Price.  Hip-hop hasn’t gone away, its still here.”

I remember when hip-hop used to be a cult-art, where you could pick a fan out of a crowd from miles away could maybe guess what he  or she was listening to and be right 90 percent of the time. “Hip-hop use to be just hip-hop, then they started using it in burger king commercials… and people  started feeling like, ” well I could be a rapper,” says War Chyld. “They take our culture and say… take a 12 year old with a Mohawk  and put him in a  commercial, because it’s all good and anybody can rap. They made a mockery out of hip-hop, but  to me, the heart of hip-hop  still beats.”

It seems to me that there’s two versions of hip-hop now,  the version we here on the radio, and the heart of the music, which you have  to do a little digging to find.  Click here for part II.

Three fool proof ways to get out of the friend zone

Sound like you? Don't worry, we might be able to help you!

Sound like you? Don’t worry, we might be able to help you!

It sucks when you get put into the friend zone with a woman you really like; on the other hand, it’s probably your fault why you got put there in the first place.  Here are three of the most typical friend zone situations , and how you can make your way out of the friend zone, and into the end zone.

1. Scenario: you’re in the friend zone with a woman who dates a lot of broke-ass fast talkers

For some women, being a good friend is not enough. She’ll date tons of losers that seem to have nothing beyond a nice face and decent conversation before she’ll even consider you  more than a friend.  If you’re trying to get a woman who gets caught up in “game,” and seems to always end up with guys who have a lot of style, but are all talk and no punch, you need to put your money where your mouth is …LITERALLY.  This girl is attracted to assets-like what kind of car you have, where you work, and most importantly, what you are willing to share with her.  To get out of the friend zone with a woman who is attracted to material things because the men she chooses never spend money on her, you need to show her that you’re no cheap-skate to get out of the friend zone. Buy dinner without her asking, bring her flowers, wear some  nicer clothes around her. Show her that you are willing to share not just your heart, but your wealth as well.

2. Scenario: you’re in the friend zone with a woman who’s dated a lot of guys who have money, and already makes good money on her own.

Some women don’t see material things as the deal breaker. If you are in the friend zone with a woman who is used to having nice things, or being with men who don’t mind spending money on her; to get out of the friend zone with  her you have to show that you care about her much more than a friend ever could, and that you only want to see her happy in the end.  In order to do this, during times when she really needs someone to be there for her, maybe she’s going through emotional struggles, maybe she’s very insecure about something, maybe she’s having a hard time dealing with something another guy has done to her; you have to be there for her until she is over the situation, without trying to make a move. Once the smoke is cleared she’ll realize that you are the one true person that will have her back through everything, and she’ll start to see you in a different light.

3. Scenario: you’re in the friend zone with a woman that you already do so much for, that you should be her boyfriend, but sadly, you’re not!

3. Here’s our last type.  In this case, let’s say that for this woman, you’re her door mat: you do everything for her, you buy her things, you listen to her problems, you’re always there, but you’re still in the friend zone; the only way to change your situation is to leave her alone. Stop doing things for her, and start putting your energy into women who are really interested in you.  After some time, this woman will realize how much you being there really meant to her and she’ll come looking for you.

Beware: these will only work if the woman is already physically/sexually attracted to you.  If not, FORGET IT!

How to get your girlfriend to try new things

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After being with the same girl for over a year, you should know a lot about her.  Most women are very adventurous and want to try just as many things as you want to try, but overwhelming afterthoughts keep them from being as free-spirited as they want.  The difference between you and some guy she doesn’t care about is that no matter what she does with him, she can choose not to see him again at any time, and could care less what he thinks.  With you, she cares about what you think of her, and doesn’t want anyone or anything else jeopardizing how you feel about her. Some of the most common explanations for not wanting to try new things, that women who have been with their boyfriends (or husbands) for a long time share, range between three categories:  worry of humiliation, regretting the morning after, and finding something that she (or you) might like more than the usual.  Here are some things you can do to release her inhibitions (that don’t include drugs or illegal substances), that you might not have already tried, just in time for Valentine’s Day!

Embarrass yourself

One way to help your girlfriend try new things is to show her that even you have a great sense of humor, and can embarrass yourself without taking it too seriously.This will help her see a vulnerable side of you, that is not so serious and will help her  be more accepting and welcoming to new experiences that might be  embarrassing.  Doing things like skinny dipping, or streaking is a great way to do something embarrassing together, who knows what creepers might see you guys!

Let her be herself

Not every couple talks about intimate fantasies, but everyone fantasizes about not-so-typical  things.  Let her tell you her fantasy, without getting offended or giving her the, “wow, you’d really do that” face.  Letting her discuss her deepest most secretive fantasies with you will make her feel even more comfortable with herself and her sexuality around you.

Let her tell you what to do

Being adventurous takes a certain amount of confidence.  She needs to know that no matter what crazy situations the two of you get into,  you will respect her feelings, protect her, and always take her side, no matter what.  Building this type of trust with her  comes from you (as the man) respecting and trusting her judgement, and in some situations, being able to “see” what she’s feeling, without her having to say what she’s feeling all the time (you know how women make those faces).

Complement her body

Make your girlfriend feel comfortable about her body, by showing that you like all her parts, not just the fun ones.  It’s impossible for your girlfriend to be completely free with you if she’s worried that you don’t like the way she looks.  It’s more than telling her that she’s beautiful; but you have to really show her.  Once she truly believes that you love her body, and no other woman could steal the physical love you have for her, she will definitely be more willing to try new things with you, and you’ll be able to recognize this change in her.

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If you’re not willing to take this journey with your girlfriend, trust me, you guys are definitely going to break-up!