After being with the same girl for over a year, you should know a lot about her. Most women are very adventurous and want to try just as many things as you want to try, but overwhelming afterthoughts keep them from being as free-spirited as they want. The difference between you and some guy she doesn’t care about is that no matter what she does with him, she can choose not to see him again at any time, and could care less what he thinks. With you, she cares about what you think of her, and doesn’t want anyone or anything else jeopardizing how you feel about her. Some of the most common explanations for not wanting to try new things, that women who have been with their boyfriends (or husbands) for a long time share, range between three categories: worry of humiliation, regretting the morning after, and finding something that she (or you) might like more than the usual. Here are some things you can do to release her inhibitions (that don’t include drugs or illegal substances), that you might not have already tried, just in time for Valentine’s Day!
One way to help your girlfriend try new things is to show her that even you have a great sense of humor, and can embarrass yourself without taking it too seriously.This will help her see a vulnerable side of you, that is not so serious and will help her be more accepting and welcoming to new experiences that might be embarrassing. Doing things like skinny dipping, or streaking is a great way to do something embarrassing together, who knows what creepers might see you guys!
Let her be herself
Not every couple talks about intimate fantasies, but everyone fantasizes about not-so-typical things. Let her tell you her fantasy, without getting offended or giving her the, “wow, you’d really do that” face. Letting her discuss her deepest most secretive fantasies with you will make her feel even more comfortable with herself and her sexuality around you.
Let her tell you what to do
Being adventurous takes a certain amount of confidence. She needs to know that no matter what crazy situations the two of you get into, you will respect her feelings, protect her, and always take her side, no matter what. Building this type of trust with her comes from you (as the man) respecting and trusting her judgement, and in some situations, being able to “see” what she’s feeling, without her having to say what she’s feeling all the time (you know how women make those faces).
Complement her body
Make your girlfriend feel comfortable about her body, by showing that you like all her parts, not just the fun ones. It’s impossible for your girlfriend to be completely free with you if she’s worried that you don’t like the way she looks. It’s more than telling her that she’s beautiful; but you have to really show her. Once she truly believes that you love her body, and no other woman could steal the physical love you have for her, she will definitely be more willing to try new things with you, and you’ll be able to recognize this change in her.
If you’re not willing to take this journey with your girlfriend, trust me, you guys are definitely going to break-up!